Our thinking patterns, and its reflection on our feelings and behaviour.
Rohit was missed by all in the school reunion. In fact, he had agreed to come and had also paid his contribution, but actually on the day of the event, he kept himself untraceable. His friends kept on calling his cell number which was found out of the network coverage. Later when was asked, Rohit said, ‘I have been out of touch with almost all for so long. Even in school I was quite a low-profile personality. Hardly anybody would have remembered me. I thought it won’t matter even if I am absent from the event, no one will miss me, since no one had ever tried to contact me in these days.’
So foolish! But is he alone thinking in that manner? Well! Of course not!!
We all have got a crystal ball in our mind and we often like to peep into it while deciding about some event or an assignment or a major decision. Instead of showing our future, the crystal ball often tends to show our insecurities and fears, that are hidden within our subconscious mind, under the disguise of a prediction, and we fools often believe in such crystal balls.
We often find ourselves being anxious or negative over an outcome of some event, which in fact turns out to be not even half negative as we had ‘predicted’. The problem here is the perceived prediction. If Rohit would have attended the reunion, he would have found out that there were at least 5-6 of his classmates who were waiting to know his current status. Many had read about his research papers and his lectures through local newspapers. In fact, his friends even discussed about how he has evolved himself as a scholar thought was not thought to be so bright during the school days.
This is called as ‘fortune telling’ in psychology, and is one of the improper thinking techniques we often adapt. Typically, it stops us from taking actions. With such a negative influence, we often make the so-called prediction true, by not enjoying the event due the influence of negativity. That further confirms your belief in the crystal ball.
The best alternative is to keep the crystal ball inside the cupboard. Face the event with a more positive and open mind, face the anxieties, see them getting diluted, enjoy the event and change your perspective. Isn’t that good?
Amit is practising & studying Homeopathy and Bach Flower Therapy for over a decade through his patients & students. He combines wonderful healing techniques of Homeopathy, Bach flower therapy, and REBT / CBT to treat his patients. Thousands of patients, spread across all continents, have regained their health with his Ethical, Rational, and Patient-centric Clinical Practice. http://www.dramitkarkare.com